Cookie Therapy

by Holly on June 28, 2010

in recipes,seriousness

Today I did two very important things.

First, I ran 4 miles. While this distance might seem fairly innocuous, it’s the farthest my short lil’ legs have taken me since the Madison 1/2-Mary.

Second, I went for my very first therapy appointment.

You may be thinking to yourself, “What the hell took you so long crazy lady?”

To which I would respond, “Crazy lady? Me? Whatever do you mean?”

Then, all you would really have to do is browse the archives of my blog, use my own photographs against me and prove your case in any court of law with ease and panache using three simple pieces of photographic evidence. The choice of photos is completely up to you.

Perhaps you could choose this picture…

…or maybe you’re going for something even crazier, like this photo…

…or this most recent shot of moi makes for a good pick as well.

Guilty as charged.

However, if I’m guilty, so are y’all because the truth is we’re all crazy.

Abby has issues; I have issues; we all have issues. And there is absolutely nothing wrong with going to see somebody to help figure out why we think the way we do, why we react the way we react and how we can change negative patterns and thought processes to better ourselves. That’s the point of life, right? To grow, change, adapt, learn, grow some more and become the people we are ultimately meant to be.

Perhaps find some happiness along the way?

It’s a battle we can’t fight alone, no matter how hard we try.

And that’s why I am seeing a therapist.

Plus, I am pretty sure Mama Everythingtarian has suffered through enough phone calls listening to my incessant rambling over important but mostly not-so-important things that she’s long overdue for a reprieve.

Enter in M.T.: my therapist.

After just 60 minutes with M.T. this morning, I felt as though a weight had lifted. Not the whole weight – let’s be real, this poor woman has no idea what kind of emotional baggage is getting ready to word vomit out my mouth along with some healthy recipe recommendations thrown in for good measure. But I felt lighter. Happier.

One of the coping mechanisms M.T. suggested for me is meditation. Now, as a healthy living blogger and person generally interested in health, I know all the benefits of meditation. However, my right-brained monkey mind doesn’t really happen to care about said benefits so I’ve just brushed this ancient practice off as “not for me.”

But I’m determined.

Along with Susan, I am going to try for 15 minutes per day of deep breathing and meditation until my next appointment in three weeks.

That’s 315 minutes of meditation.

Not like I’m counting.

Thankfully, I have wonderful insurance that is allowing me to do this, but if your paltry insurance doesn’t cover seeing an actual therapist (don’t get me started on health care reform…), there is always cookies.

Strawberry Coconut Oatmeal Cookies

1 1/4 cups spelt flour
1 cup oats
a couple shakes of cinnamon
1/2 t baking powder
1/2 t baking soda
1/4 t salt
3/4 cup packed brown sugar
1/2 stick (4 T) softened butter
1 t vanilla
1 large egg
1 cup finely diced strawberries
3/4 cup sweetened shredded coconut

Preheat the oven to 350 degrees.

In a medium bowl, sift together the dry ingredients and set aside.

Then, in a stand mixer or by hand, cream together the sugar and butter. Add the vanilla and egg and mix well. Slowly add the dry ingredients to the wet, stirring until the batter is mixed well. It will be thick and slightly stiff. Fold in the strawberries and coconut; be careful not to overmix.

On a baking sheet, scoop 1 1/2-inch balls of dough and bake for 15 to 20 minutes or until golden brown.

Makes 18 to 24 cookies

ALWAYS cookies. I’m convinced they are the original, much cheaper version of therapy anyways. Now, if you don’t mind, I’m off to meditate with a cookie in each hand.

Two therapies are better than one, right?


*Andrea* June 28, 2010 at 9:55 pm

i love this post holly! you have a knack at being able to laugh at yourself which i love. at the same time it is admirable that you are trying out therapy. i just started seeing a therapist this summer and i feel that it can be so taboo! but honestly, i believe therapy could make everyone so much happier and kinder to each other. (i am also guilty of complaining to my mom and crying way too much to her and i see that it breaks her heart )

Amy B @ Second City Randomness June 28, 2010 at 9:57 pm

Cookie therapy is an ideal coping mechanism… please don’t ever let anyone tell me differently. :)

Maya June 28, 2010 at 10:17 pm

TELL IT LIKE IT IS, SISTER. This post helps a lot for me, too, as someone who recently talked about therapy on a blog, too. It’s hard to know what is too personal to talk about on a blog. I almost didn’t write about my own experience, but therapy is associated with shame for a lot of people, which is a shame. And I figured if my post helps one person consider the importance of mental health, it’s worth it. And you achieved that with this post for me. Thanks, Holly!

Adrien June 28, 2010 at 10:28 pm

Don’t eat too many cookies before meditating- wait for the sugar crash, then meditate.. Otherwise those 15minutes will feel more like 45.

I see a therapist too- nothing beats paying someone to listen to EVERYTHING you have to say- and then validate you on all your crazy feelings, therapy is my favorite way to spend an evening, next to yoga and cookie eating (with ice cream).

I love you for this post (among others)- and I want to meet your mom, I think I would love her

Jessica June 28, 2010 at 10:52 pm

Hey BEAUTY! That first “crazy face” picture of you is pretty hot, actually. Check that taaaaaannnn! hahah :)

I’m glad to hear that a simple therapy sesh has lifted tons of weight off your shoulders! You deserve mayjuh happiness, therefore whatever’s keeping you from it must be acknowledged! Ya dig?! I think a little meditation (and R&R) is exactly what your body needs! My dad actually meditates for about 15 minutes each day, usually mid-afternoon or around dinner time. He says it helps him reflect on the day, and see where he can make any positive adjustments or give thanks. HE’S SUCH A HIPPY DOCTOR! I know, i know :)

But those cookies look bomb–i’m all about the strawberries! And now i’m off to watch the bachelorette and snack on that choco pb coconut ice cream we spoke of earlier! Yes please! So excited for tomorrow’s chat sesh, xoxoxox

Rosey Rebecca June 28, 2010 at 10:53 pm

Cookie therapy is the best kind of therapy! And those look soooo tasty! I’ve actually been considering seeing a therapist for years. I have anxiety issues and have always been too anxious to see a therapist. (If you can believe that!) This post has made me feel better about it, so thank you!

Madeline - Greens and Jeans June 28, 2010 at 11:17 pm

I’m pretty sure Mama Jeans would be very excited if I wanted to unload on a therapist instead of my “woe is me” phone calls as I drive home from work every day… Until then, I’ll just have to take an extra helping of cookie therapy!

Allison R. June 28, 2010 at 11:26 pm

GREAT post…and those cookies look pretty fab as well :)

Carbzilla June 29, 2010 at 12:40 am

I’m gonna have to stop reading blogs right before bed. Between these cookies and Mama Pea’s brownies, I don’t know how I’m gonna pass by the kitchen without grabbing a snack. Darnit!

“That’s the point of life, right? To grow, change, adapt, learn, grow some more and become the people we are ultimately meant to be.” YES, I couldn’t agree more.

I *might* know someone who needed 10 years of therapy to turn out almost normal. Just sayin’.

crunchy granola gal June 29, 2010 at 12:52 am

girl, i’ve had at least ten therapists that i can remember, from the ages of sixteen through twenty-two – you ain’t alone in your crazypants disease. ;) we all need a little outside help sometimes, help that moms, best friends and boyfriends can’t ever provide. this is coming from the social worker in training, though, so you better take everything i say with a grain of salt. i’m all up in therapy and i support you 100%!

Abby June 29, 2010 at 1:03 am

“Crazy” is a relative term (in that most of my relatives are crazy, but that’s a different story.) I think the people that go to therapy are some of the most centered, self-aware people–minus Tony Soprano–and there’s no shame in your game, my sister. If I could afford it, I would as well. As it is, I just drive everyone else crazy so they resort to either professional help or baked goods.

Mama Pea June 29, 2010 at 2:11 am

You are a brave, brave woman. And it’s high time we chatted. I am all for this meditation thing. I think it could do good things in my life. Any pointers? Do I just sit and close my eyes and breathe? Because when I do that, I generally fall asleep. Sleep could also do good things in my life, but that wouldn’t be very productive now would it? Love you Holls.

Erica June 29, 2010 at 4:47 am

ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh…this recipe! I’ve been waiting. ;) Can’t wait to make it

Jessica @ How Sweet It Is June 29, 2010 at 5:35 am

I’m so bad at meditation…my mind always constantly races. I know you can do it girl!

Lauren June 29, 2010 at 5:54 am

Wow, this post was very moving. Your honesty is so much appreciated and I know that so many people can relate to this topic, me included! A few years ago, I struggled with some things and finally went to see a therapist. Honestly, she is the ONLY person in the world who understood and got me through. I was prescribed medicated for a very short time and not that I advocate drugs for helping to improve your health, sometimes, they are needed. There is a definite medical chemical imbalance that occurs so it’s only right to bring everything back into balance with a little help from medication.

Girl, you have nothing to be ashamed of! You are so strong and so amazing for sharing this!!! :)

Love you always!

Matt June 29, 2010 at 6:12 am

Cookies always lift my spirits ;)

Uncle Tommie Timbertoes June 29, 2010 at 6:16 am

I wish Gayle would let me take therapy. Self-discovery takes a bit of courage because you may have to face things you don’t want to believe, but, when done honestly, is far more beneficial than any trip to a foriegn destination or any meal that curled your toes.

I have a theory. People who have a overwhelming desire to travel on a dime (like you & like yer Uncle in his early days) aren’t looking for exotic experiences or scenic vistas, there looking to find themselves and just don’t know it. Hardscrabble travelling has a way of stripping your defenses down to nothing and forcing you to face the insecurties that, sometimes, keep you from knowing who you is. Good therapy can do that too.

Uncle Tommie Timbertoes.

Amber June 29, 2010 at 6:19 am

way to go Holly! I use guided meditation. I cannot sit in silence and not think of 815 things I should be doing instead. There are some great guided meditations on iTunes. I highly recommend them.

Katie June 29, 2010 at 6:58 am

Cookies are great therapy! Yum girl! I think just baking in general is awesome therapy!!

I hope you have a great rest of the week!!!

You really are just an amazing, funny, and sweet girl! U rock! I love how you keep it real!

Katie @ Health for the Whole Self June 29, 2010 at 7:46 am

I’m a daily reader but not a frequent commenter…but I just had to say that I really appreciate you writing this post. Unfortunately I still think there is a huge stigma when it comes to counseling and therapy, which is a huge shame. Talking with someone on a weekly or monthly basis is a wonderful way to get to know yourself better, live more mindfully, and cope better with life’s hard times. How can there be shame or embarrassment in that? We all have issues; being proactive about handling them is simply one more way of living life to the fullest. Thanks for this post, Holly! :)

Whit June 29, 2010 at 8:06 am

I’m SO PROUD of you!!!!!!! Love you!

Megan @ The Oatmeal Diaries June 29, 2010 at 8:16 am

Meditation is one of those things that intrigues me and I really want to try, I just never have. Cookies sound like a pretty good form of therapy as well :)

k @ ksgoodeats June 29, 2010 at 8:24 am

Okay first of all, those pics cracked me up. Love you! Second I admire your honesty about going to therapy. There is nothing wrong with seeking help when it comes to ANYTHING! I think a lot of people (women in particular) just grin and bear it but you can only do that for so long. It’s nice to get an outsider’s opinion/advice/guidance now and then.

Kristin (Salty Tooth) June 29, 2010 at 8:24 am

Congrats, I’m proud of you. I started going to therapy a few months ago and not to sound lame, but it changed my life. Once I got over the whole crazy factor, I could see how beneficial it was.

Evan Thomas June 29, 2010 at 8:49 am

Good for you for doing what you need to do.

Katie June 29, 2010 at 9:23 am

Good for you!! There was a time in my life when a therapist could have seriously helped me (and family and friends from having to listen to me) – I wish I had taken the initiative. I feel like I’m not as much of a hot mess at this point in my life – but who knows, maybe someday I’ll feel the need again. Until then, I’ll bake cookies. :-)

Kacy June 29, 2010 at 9:46 am

Good for you! I’ve been sitting on a therapist’s phone number for weeks now. I really think I would benefit from seeing someone right now, but I’ve been twice in the past and I’m a little hesitant to go back. Thanks for the kick in the pants!

And those cookies… who can have issues when they have those in their belly?!

brandi June 29, 2010 at 9:47 am

I think everyone has times in their life where therapy can be extremely helpful. It’s nice to just have someone to talk to who doesn’t know everything already, you know? They can really give an outsider’s point of view. I’ve talked to counselors before and it really does lift a weight off your shoulders.

But you’re right. Cookies are always good :)

Kristen June 29, 2010 at 10:15 am

I have always been a firm believer that EVERYONE needs a therapist! I can’t even imagine where my life would be without having seen one… Just like there is an eb and flow in all things… so is the need to see an “impartial stranger that is usually smarter than us” to help sort shiz out! Kudos for putting it out there. Some people think it’s the crazies that need therapy… I go to therapy to remind myself that I am NOT crazy! =)

maxinthegym June 29, 2010 at 10:31 am

Mmm ooey gooey microwaved chocolate chip cookies with vanilla ice cream on top…a therapy session in its own right :)

lo June 29, 2010 at 11:02 am

holly bear, you are amazing. You are so honest and strong! No shame in talking to someone, or baking cookies…cookies are totally my therapy sesh when i feel stressed, happy, sad, wild, etc….wanted to comment on your last post too: I want some of that MONKEY BREAD. are u here this weekend? come play with me!


samantha June 29, 2010 at 11:26 am

dude, therapy rules. i’m in a long term relationship with it! i totally relate to the weight being lifted aspect of it all — you are being proactive and doing something for yourself! totally something to celebrate with cookies.

Laura June 29, 2010 at 11:29 am

You’re fab and very funny:-) cookies can make anyone feel good;) xx

Sami June 29, 2010 at 11:49 am

cookie therapy is definitely the best kind. i’ve been lazy & just eating lucy’s. chocolate chip, sugar, oatmeal, and cinnamon thins! they’re gluten free and freaking awesome. XO.

Angharad June 29, 2010 at 11:49 am

Ok, first of all, that second picture features my big crazy face in it too…are ya hinting that maybe I could use some help as well?! I jest, I jest…

I’m glad you’re taking steps to feel better about life, my sweet. It can only be a positive thing. As can cookies. Only.Ever.Positive.
Let’s chat soon.

Much love xxx

Emily (A Nutritionist Eats) June 29, 2010 at 1:36 pm

First of all the cookies look wonderful!
Secondly, good for you for doing what you need to do. I LOVED going to therapist! (And mine was a great hippiesh one in Sauk City…loved her)

Ilana June 29, 2010 at 3:27 pm

Holly! I think it’s amazing that you’re seeing a therapist – we all definitely do need someone to talk to. I wish I had the balls to get over my own issues with therapy and just go already. You are spectacular and strong – and you’re amazing for being open about it because who knows who might get inspired to pick up the phone and call their insurance company and find a therapist of their own (aka,maybe me)!

Garet June 29, 2010 at 3:42 pm

I took a Mindfullness-Based Stress Reduction class a year ago, and all of the meditation exercises are available online, for free, here:

The “Sitting Meditation” was pretty helpful for me. After a few days, you really can tell a difference in your concentration. And the yoga exercises are excellent!

But I’d be perfectly willing to just try the cookies instead. :)

Nicole @ Geek Turned Athlete June 29, 2010 at 5:44 pm

I’m proud of you girl, for taking charge of your life! I think therapy is a great idea if you need it!

April June 29, 2010 at 6:30 pm

Haha those pictures are so dang cute! That’s the face I make when lifting! lol. I need to try to mediatate.. I always have so much dang stuff on my mind that it is hard to winddown!

Shelley June 29, 2010 at 7:45 pm

you are literally HILARIOUS. we’re meeting up in the fall again. That aside, i agree with you that there is absolutely nothing wrong with seeing a regular therapist! Everyone should go in my opinion- we all need someone to vent to about our stuff. oh, and cookies solve any problem. the end.


Lynn @ The Actors Diet June 29, 2010 at 8:30 pm

my shrink cancelled on me today – i may need one of those super thick cookies!

Bekah July 3, 2010 at 9:11 am

This post just goes to show that everybody has problems, everybody has issues, and maybe everybody needs a therapist, (or at least somebody to talk to!) for sure. But we all react to/face our problems differently, which is why some people can handle (harder) problems than others, and maybe some people don’t really need therapy. But I can’t say its a bad thing! And then there are those of us that rely on cookie therapy to carry us through. :)

elise April 21, 2011 at 2:20 am

sometimes i think everyone should be required to get a therapist. i mean can you imagine how much happier and saner everyone would be if they had regularly vented all their sh!t without anyone judging?!? im glad you are treating yourself right girlfran!

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