things i learned the summer life got crazy

by Holly on September 1, 2011

in seriousness

To say that this summer was crazy may be a bit of an understatement.

Between weddingsmaking fun of Sandra Lee…putting on body wash thinking it was body lotion…procrastinatingweekend trips to Chicago…obsessing over full-fat cream cheese…eating peanut butter + mozzarella pizzakicks…not working out…riding Princess Helga around town…special visitors…bachelorette parties…moving apartmentsmore weddings…you’ve heard me complain about the chaotic circus that was my life. But now that summer has sadly started dissippating, I am realizing that was exactly the problem: I was complaining.

I was complaining about celebrating LOVE 10x over.

I was complaining about not having enough time to do the things I want to do and accomplish the things I want to accomplish with the precious time I wasn’t working at my full-time job.

I was complaining about my horrible landlord (<- this one was warranted).

I was complaining about being attacked by a drunken man wearing a red dress in New Orleans who lurched his booze-filled head towards mine in attempt to make out with me but instead bit my bottom lip, causing it to bleed (<- also warranted).

I was complaining, whining and repeatedly musing over my supposed ‘woes’ and allowing myself to rationalize not taking care of myself. Not eating right. Not exercising. Not having the time or energy to pursue my goals. Not taking responsibility for my life.

In other words, I made excuses.

And as a result, I found my Everythingtarian self in one big funk. Nothing seemed to go right this summer for me – not my job, not my love life, not my running life, not my blog life, not my friend life, not my anything or everything life. Because I didn’t let it. I began to expect the worse…predict only the negative outcomes…and allow myself to become swallowed in the dark, deep abyss that is wallowing in unwarranted self-pity.

I could see myself falling.

I felt myself falling.

But I just let it happen and then complained about it when it did.

I am a lucky, blessed person, but even so, it is still much easier to complain than to be happy. It is much easier to lament your personal shortcomings instead of taking the initiative to improve them. It is far too easy to wonder why others attract success while you seem to be floundering like a fish on its last breath of life. And it is just too dang easy to write about embracing imperfectionaccepting yourself for who you are…being positive…and letting go of the past instead of actually taking your own advice.

But the beautiful part of this life is that it gives us a new beginning.

Or rather unending new beginnings, as in the words of my 6th-grade-band-obsession Semisonic, “Every new beginning comes from some other beginning’s end.” Thank you Mr. Bonshire for introducing me to this 90’s has-been band.

What I am trying to say is that health is more than just food or exercise. Health is about treating ourselves right, believing that we deserve the very best this world has to offer and mentally rewiring our brains to function in a way that is going to help us…not hurt us. And even an Everythingtarian like myself needs to remind herself of this too.

Sooo…consider me reminded.

{ 29 comments }

Lisa @ I'm an Okie September 1, 2011 at 11:19 pm

Sometimes you need days like that (or sometimes, a whole season) to be reminded of it. I’m so glad you are seeing the patterns you were falling into. Most people would just keep on going with their merry selves complaining their way through life instead of picking themselves up and seeing what they can do about it.

and way to bust out the semisonic. that just made the post.

Jessica September 1, 2011 at 11:24 pm

I think it is easy to fall into a funk where everything in life seems to be going wrong, but I think it is hard to admit it and get out of it. Good for you for remembering to take care of your mental health too. I’m going to agree with Lisa, and I love the Semisonic quote! Have a great Labor Day weekend! :)

Mama Pea September 1, 2011 at 11:28 pm

I couldn’t have said it better. Proud of you, girl.

Erica September 2, 2011 at 1:18 am

What a summer!! To new beginnings!

Averie @ Love Veggies and Yoga September 2, 2011 at 5:41 am

This is a beautiful post, Holly! So glad you have come away from the past few mos with a new perspective, refreshed, recentered, and are not making excuses. Here-here!

You go girl! And I wish you could rub that energy and vibe off on most people who would rather complain…than Change things!

Alison September 2, 2011 at 5:44 am

and consider us reminded too – we all need it.

Lauren September 2, 2011 at 5:57 am

Amen girl! :)

Amy B @ Second City Randomness September 2, 2011 at 6:04 am

I think that’s one of the reasons why I enjoy this time of year (aug/sept/fall/whatever). It’s like a fresh new start. Huzzah!

Uncle Tommie Timbertoes September 2, 2011 at 6:15 am

“…it’s easier to complain than to be happy”. Truer words never said. Yer cuz Mike-B has the secret. He has every reason in the world to complain about what life gave him, but he’s the happiest man alive, especially when you through in a baseball game and a Hooters visit.

chelsey @ clean eating chelsey September 2, 2011 at 6:26 am

Sometimes I need to be in a funk to be reminded how crazy and fun life really is!

Hillary September 2, 2011 at 7:14 am

“What I am trying to say is that health is more than just food or exercise. Health is about treating ourselves right, believing that we deserve the very best this world has to offer and mentally rewiring our brains to function in a way that is going to help us…not hurt us.”

Could not have put it better myself, Holly. This is something that I need to be reminded of on a daily basis. I take all this time eating right, making time for exercise, and sleeping as much as I can—but that all means NADA if I’m not allowing myself to think positively. A day of negative thinking can undo a week of healthy “living.” Thanks for the reminder. I needed it, too.

Ashley September 2, 2011 at 7:37 am

LOVE YOU!!!! Just thought this one was especially worth a comment because it was exactly what we were talking about, but you put it all in perspective for me :) Come see me and we will both get out of our funks! Miss you xo

Andrea@WellnessNotes September 2, 2011 at 8:15 am

Sometimes it takes a big funk and getting out of it to truly live life and do everything we can to live our best lives. Glad you are reminded. :) This post helped me remind myself of a few things…

Liz @ IHeartVegetables September 2, 2011 at 8:38 am

I constantly need to be reminded of the same things! I get so caught up in certain things and I forget to enjoy life!!!

Have a great weekend girl! P.S. I’m your newest subscriber! :)

Meister @ The Nervous Cook September 2, 2011 at 8:39 am

“I am a lucky, blessed person, but even so, it is still much easier to complain than to be happy. It is much easier to lament your personal shortcomings instead of taking the initiative to improve them.”

I realized this about myself this year (this summer, actually) as well, and life has only gotten better since I decided to change it. Sounds like you’re doing the same thing — and not failing, winning! WINNING!

Good for you. Keep smiling, keep moving forward.

Mindy September 2, 2011 at 8:43 am

Wow… just what I needed! I may have to read this every morning to start my day off and remind myself of the beautiful life I can and will embrace!

Kailey (SnackFace) September 2, 2011 at 8:53 am

YAYYYY you’re back!!! The guest posts were great, but I really, really missed you!

I think this is such a beautiful post. It’s easy to complain and TALK about what you want and what you want to change, but it’s putting those words into action that matters. It’s so difficult sometimes, too!

Email me when you can! I missed you terribly! xoxoxo

brandi September 2, 2011 at 9:07 am

I think we’re reminded of these things right at the perfect time – sounds like that’s how it happened for you :)

i’ve missed you!!

Jen September 2, 2011 at 9:20 am

I neeeeded this post so much, THANK YOU for being so honest and writing it!!!

“Health is about treating ourselves right, believing that we deserve the very best this world has to offer and mentally rewiring our brains to function in a way that is going to help us…not hurt us.” <–resonated BIG TIME! Must write this down and stick it to my bathroom mirror, car rear view mirror, and my work computer! haha

I've still got 4 weddings coming up and not sure how I'm gonna manage all the things in between and after (hello holidays!) but hopefully I can take your bit of advice up there and carry it w/ me through the fall and winter months! Take care!

Mackenzie @ Whatever, Gatsby September 2, 2011 at 9:32 am

first of all, AMEN SISTERFRAND. sending you lots of love from this little city of beans.

second of all, sandra lee is just ASKING FOR IT!

Lindsay @ Lindsay's List September 2, 2011 at 9:48 am

Great post, Holly!! So truthful and raw!
I’m always reminded that God’s mercies are NEW every morning, each and every morning.

Lauren http://theclimbingchef.blogspot.com/ September 2, 2011 at 11:37 am

This is exactly what I needed to read this morning… thank you, sweets :)

Pure2raw twins September 2, 2011 at 12:30 pm

love love love this post! well said! and we are glad you are back :) and so true health is more than food and exercise, it is about treating ourselves right; and living life and having fun while doing the best we can :) xoxo

Jessica September 2, 2011 at 1:13 pm

You’re back! yayaya! you got this girl. make some time for yourself this fall season and reflect on how much fun you had this summer- i’m guessing so much fun! yes, there were apparently some ups & downs, but all in all you were surrounded by good friends, your fam and good times- remember that! you’re gonna rock these next few months and i know you’ll get back in the swing of everything….because you’re holly, and holly rocks the sh!t outta everthaaaaang. obviously. xoxoxo

Laura @ Sprint 2 the Table September 2, 2011 at 2:38 pm

Oh, Holly. You are my favorite. :)

And only in New Orleans would YOU get bitten by a drunken man wearing a red dress. #cantmakethatup

Katie September 2, 2011 at 9:32 pm

You are such a good writer! I have felt like this (numerous times) in my life, but don’t think I was ever so poignant about it. Next time I’m in a funk, I’m going to make you explain it to me with your words and reflections that I can never seem to grasp.

Sarah September 3, 2011 at 6:23 am

Consider me reminded, too! I think everyone needs to hear/read this once in a while.

EmilyK September 3, 2011 at 9:24 am

This is a beautiful post. I have a tendency to complain about how I ‘never do anything fun’ (ask my mom!) only to realize I have to MAKE the fun.

Carbzilla September 3, 2011 at 11:00 am

Great post. Yes, we have to remember that our “worst” days are somebody else’s dream days. You are blessed!

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